Louise Hinton, Lead Nurse at Kari Health says, “It’s extremely common, actually 1 in 5 women experience a level of anal incontinence after a vaginal delivery, ranging from a few embarrassing “accidents” to lifelong OASI (Obstetric Anal Sphincter Injuries). This will be temporary for some as they recover control after pelvic floor trauma, which can stem from pushing or stretching during labour. But for others who suffer nerve damage or sphincter injuries, it could be permanent. Your pelvic floor looks like the number 8 and controls both your vaginal opening and anus. Doing pelvic floor exercises is vital to reducing the chance of this happening and improving the condition. Faecal incontinence can be worse if you don’t eat enough fibre, drink too much alcohol and caffeine and don’t stay hydrated. Some women will have a dietary trigger, which can worsen it, and some will have no warning whatsoever. Establishing a bowel habit can help, but not in all cases. If you are experiencing anal incontinence, speak to your GP, Midwife or Health Visitor and ask for a referral to a physiotherapist who can help with pelvic floor injuries. You can also talk to an Obstetrician/Colorectal surgeon who deals with sphincter injuries and nerve damage to see what can be done.”

Kari Health‘s Integrative Counsellor and Psychotherapist Chloe Pollock says, “Also known as ‘baby blues’, low feelings commonly occur 3-5 days after birth and typically last 2ish weeks. You might experience unexplainable crying over small triggers, significant mood swings or be noticeably irritable. There may also be higher worry and anxiety. Roughly 80% of mothers will experience this, and it’s due to changes in hormone levels, tiredness, changes in routine and feeling overwhelmed. Simple things like eating well, resting as much as possible and doing something you love can all help. You might not be getting enough sleep, but you can look after yourself with self-care.

Louise Hinton, Lead Nurse at Kari Health, says, “It’s so normal to feel clunky after giving birth. And many women find that they continue to look pregnant for a few weeks. This is because it takes this time for the funds (the top of your uterus) to descend back into the pelvic cavity. It is an excellent idea (for weight loss and mental health) to do exercise post-partum. However, waiting until 3 – 6 months post-delivery is advised to allow for any internal and external healing. Running too soon can cause incontinence, injury or prolapse. So please don’t rush! Extra caution is needed to avoid injury for those who did not run pre- or during pregnancy. During pregnancy, the hormones relaxin and progesterone increase, allowing your ligaments to become looser to accommodate and support your body shape and size change. It takes 6 – 12 months for the ligaments to return to normal, so therefore some women find exercise more difficult post-partum, especially high impact or core strength workouts.”

Kari Health Psychotherapist Chloe Pollock says, “Bonding can be immediate for some, but for others, it can take time. And this is entirely normal. The process isn’t linear. You may find the attachment grows as you provide care for your newborn. Having a c-section or having a traumatic birth, which meant you did not get to see your newborn straight after birth, can make the bonding process challenging. Post-partum depression can also impact the mother’s ability to bond with their child. Challenging family dynamics can also be a factor. Bonding occurs in many ways, like skin-to-skin touch, feeding time, breastfeeding, and general care like bathing or rocking them to sleep. The love you have for your child grows and grows, and it’s ok if you don’t feel an instant rush of love. If a few months have passed and you still feel a lack of connection, speak to your GP or Health Visitor, and they can determine if a psychological or health issue may be playing a part in the challenges.”

Nurse and Midwife, Jasmine Sneyd says, “Hormone levels are high during pregnancy, and after birth, they decline. This fluctuation and your body’s attempt to regulate itself leads to night sweats. The most apparent sign of post-partum night sweats is waking up from sleep drenched or soaked in sweat. It’s completely normal and should only last a couple of days. You might get a mild fever when you first start producing milk, and it happens because the breasts can swell too much and become inflamed when your milk starts to come in. However, there are a few reasons why you might have a high temperature after birth, and it’s always best to get checked out by your GP or midwife, especially if you’ve had a c-section.”

Midwife Jasmine Sneyd says, “When one resumes personal and sexual relationships is a very individual and often cultural decision”, so please don’t feel there’s a rush. “Due to hormone changes during pregnancy and after birth, vaginal dryness may occur. It is important to have a postnatal check-up so you can discuss any concerns with a Midwife but try not to worry as it does take time. When you want to have sex and you’ve been given the go-ahead, a lubricant can moisten the area if you’re experiencing dryness. And your pelvic floor exercises are essential in this area too! As they can help with sexual health by bringing a good blood supply to the area.” And all of the things that help improve your emotions can also help here! If you’re happy and well-nourished, you’ll be far more likely to want to get it on with your partner.”