How to Improve Your Mood When You’re Feeling Low After Birth

The Mum Club26 March 2024

How to Improve Your Mood When You’re Feeling Low After Birth

Anyone else feel like there are two camps for your post-natal feelings to sit in?

Either you’re a-OK and acing life as a new mum. Or you’re not coping and suffering from post-natal depression.

But what if you feel a bit low, anxious, or you’re traumatised from a pretty savage labour? Where do you go?

We spoke to Ross J Barr, a leading acupuncturist (and the man who treated Meghan Markle when she lived in London), to find out why we feel low after birth.

Is it normal to feel low after birth?

“Yes!”, says Ross, “When I see people that feel post-natally down, it is often linked to blood deficiency and exhaustion, which most mums have. Interestingly if you look up the symptoms for anaemia, they are pretty much the same as depression. One of the biggest causes of post-natal depression is that women are generally anaemic”. He adds, “Quite often in the period after birth, you don’t feel like you’re residing in yourself, you just go on autopilot, and a part of this comes from a primal instinct, and for the rest of it, you’re just bumbling along and making it up as you go along”.

Can tiredness make me feel more emotional?

“Absolutely”, says Ross, “Tiredness causes the body to run on adrenaline. You’re overtly risk accessing, and you’re running on reserve power. Of course, it will affect your emotions. It can also cause you to catastrophise and create ‘what ifs?’, that’s what adrenaline does for us”.

Can my baby feel my emotions?

“If your internal state is not at peace, sooner or later, your children’s internal state can be affected by it. They can pick up on your emotions, and even if you think you’re creating a great veil over it, your kids can pick up on it”, says Ross.

Do all women feel low after birth?

Ross says, “I would say there’s definitely a trend with the women I see, and it’s a combination of depletion, blood loss and shock. When you get depleted, you feel like a weaker version of yourself, and you’re more vulnerable. It’s important to nourish the mum and to fortify her. I see mums that have been bleeding for 6 weeks, and they wonder why they’re exhausted. But of course, you would be”.

9 Things You Can Do to Improve Your Mood…

Support Yourself Pre and Postnatally.
Make sure you’re well supplemented during pregnancy, so your body is stronger and more able to cope with both labour and the feelings you will experience post-natally. Dr Ross J Barr Female Pregnancy Formula, £32
https://victoriahealth.com/female-pregnancy-formula/
Book in for a Mind and Body MOT
There are many things that you can do after birth to support your recovery. And you might have heard of a Postnatal MOT that is done by a women’s health proffessional. But you can also have psycological MOTs too. Your mind is just as (if not more) important than your body, so it’s important to look after that too.
Even just one appointment will help support your body’s recovery process. You’re the most important person in your child’s life right now. This is not a luxury. It is essential maintenance.
Nourish Yourself.
Follow the basics of healthy living, and don’t skip a meal. Take as many calories as you need.
Build a Wall of Care
Let other people do things for you, allow yourself to let go of responsibility and don’t feel bad about taking time for you.
View Doing Nothing Differently
When you’re adrenalised, it makes it difficult for you to sit down and relax. Doing nothing is not a defeat. Do this for as long as you feel you have a greater capacity to fit other stuff in.
Accept the Change.
People try to maintain the same life that they had pre-kids, and I think once you accept life is different, you will find peace more easily.
Take 15-20 mins in the Day
Shutting down for a 15-20 min nap or being still during the day will help put all of the cortisol and adrenaline back in its box. It doesn’t mean you won’t be able to sleep later. It just recharges you.
Nap at the beginning of your baby’s sleep.
A) You’re less likely to be woken up, but b) you’ll also find it easier to drift off. Ever run around the house cleaning and then tried to sleep? It’s almost impossible, as, by the time you’ve calmed down your system, your baby is awake. Sleep breeds sleep. Do it at the start, and then you’re in a better place to take things on.
Choose Tea over Coffee.
Drinking coffee is like putting all of your issues into nuclear waste. You get into a cycle thinking you need a cup to have energy, and it becomes an addiction. There’s an ingredient in the coffee bean that causes the cells in our kidneys to expand quite aggressively. It triggers an adrenaline release, which means we run on our reserves, and it is not good for the body especially when we’re overtired. Can’t give it up? Ross adds, “You prematurely age when you run on adrenaline. Usually, If I tell my clients that, it stops them in their tracks. There’s nothing wrong with a good old cup of tea, so I’d opt for a few of those instead”.

What is a post-natal psychological MOT?

“A post-natal psychological MOT can help the body to rebalance and reset itself, as well as relieving stress and anxiety post-birth. Using acupuncture, we treat the shock, and often blood loss, of labour, by pinpointing areas that would benefit from stimulation or need calming”, says Ross. He adds, “There are particular points in acupuncture that are aimed to treat shock and trauma. It is not a luxury that’s reserved for celebrities. This is an essential treatment that anyone can access”.

What can you expect from a post-natal psychological MOT?

Approx. 45 minutes of necessary YOU time, where you lie down on a comfy bed, and the acupuncturist treats your mental and physical state. • “First, we check your pulse points, which lasts for around 5-10 minutes. This is a key factor for achieving a good diagnosis, as it enables you to see what’s going on internally”, says Ross. • Next, the acupuncturist selects points based on any symptoms that the client reports combined with the analysis of your pulses. • The painless needles are placed in for roughly 10-20mins. Some will be in for longer than others. Ross says, “Often a mum will come in, and if we do it right, then her tired, ashy complexion will change from start to finish. Usually, you will leave feeling brighter but looking it too!”

When should I have it?

“I usually encourage mums to come in two weeks after they’ve given birth”, says Ross. “By then the newborn bubble has gone, hormones have levelled, and adrenaline falls away, and we can generally start to see how deficient someone is and the areas that need focussing on”.

Why would I need one?

The aftercare UK mums receive post-birth is next to nothing. “There’s a lovely saying in Chinese medicine that the best way to stop a crying baby is to treat the mother, and that is the basis for a lot of what we try and do. We initiate the mother to focus on herself more, this is for the benefit of her baby. It’s not a selfish act, it’s a necessary one”, says Ross.

How many treatments do I need?

“The first treatment can be the most life-changing”, says Ross. “But you could allow for 2-5 treatments. The more experienced the practitioner is, the more likely they will be able to get their diagnosis right the first time, but that being said, most acupuncturists are so well trained they should be able to diagnose what needs to be treated in your first or second appointment”.

The Mum Club26 March 2024